| The Woman's Guide
to Younger Men
by Chris Olander
I often awake to find Beverly, my older wife, wrapped around
me like a Virginia creeper. In the nineteen years since we
met, she has shown me what true love is, and I couldn't live
without it. For the first time, I have someone who wants me
as much as I want her.
Falling in love with an older woman is the best thing I ever
did, and I'm not alone. The percentage of women marrying younger
men doubled over the past two decades, and women marrying
for the second time are seven times more likely to marry a
younger man.
If you haven't discovered the joys of a younger
man, it's probably cultural. Close your eyes and imagine a
romantic couple snuggling together. One person is older and
distinguished; the other is young and sexy. What do you see
in your mind's eye? If it's an older man with his second (or
third) wife, you're not alone. Hollywood is run by men, so
it's hard to escape their fantasies.
Perhaps it's time to rewrite the script. Women
who consider younger partners triple their chances of finding
the love they deserve. More importantly, older women and younger
men enjoy equal, open, and exciting relationships. As one
forty-seven year old divorcee with a twenty-eight year old
lover says, "Younger men are just more fun."
The first step in finding the right partner
is to know more about yourself. What are you passionate about?
Think about people, places, objects, issues, careers, organizations,
and hobbies. Write down several, starting with the most important.
Close your eyes and imagine your ideal soulmate.
What things must you share? What's "negotiable?"
(Careful, this doesn't mean ignoring your feelings, denying
deeply held beliefs, or trying to change someone else). What's
"non-negotiable?"
Imagine yourself on your deathbed. What are
three things you wish you had done? This may seem like a curious
way to find a mate, but sometimes we're too busy living our
lives to question whether it's the right life. Think about
what you really want, not what you think you should want.
This might include raising a family, succeeding at your career,
building a business, fighting for an issue, or finding a spiritual
community. We all have many roles in life, but pick your top
three priorities.
Now look in the mirror and remember yourself
ten years ago. Didn't you have many of the same hopes and
dreams then that you have now? Imagine the ideal partner for
your younger self. Before thinking "he's too young for
me," ask, "too young for what?" It might be
time to "think again" about younger men.
Keywords: younger men, older women, finding
love, relationships
About the Author
Chris Olander, Cornwall, NY, USA
Olander5@aol.com
http://www.youngerlover.com
Chris Olander, author of The Ageless Love trilogy, is Executive
Director Emeritus of two private foundations in New York City.
He lives with his wife Beverly in Cornwall on Hudson, NY.
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