| Excellent Ways to
Meet Good Single Men
by Terry Hernon MacDonald
So, you’re convinced that you have zero opportunities
to meet men. Are you stuck in an office all day with the same
stiffs day in and day out? Have you tried singles’ dances,
only to leave feeling worse than when you went in? Did the
last loser your aunt set you up with squash your Chihuahua
when he screeched up the driveway?
Well, don’t fret. I have some ideas for
you. While advice columnists steer single women into churches
to meet honest, loyal, and successful men, I wouldn’t
dream of it. Church is great for communing with God, but it
never struck me as the best place to meet a man. People, including
me, are on our best behavior at church. If you’d rather
meet a man where he’s more likely to be himself, here
are my top three recommendations:
1.A bar, specifically during Monday Night Football.
Football season is a great time to meet men who flock to taverns
to watch the NFL. When I was single, I loved going to Monday
Night Football (even though I didn’t really understand
the game) because the bar was filled with mostly single men,
there was a free buffet, and the atmosphere was merry. Advice
columnists usually tell women to stay out of bars if they
want to meet suitable men, but I disagree. It’s important
to see how a man drinks, and how he behaves under the influence
of alcohol. Does he get wasted and drive home? Or, does he
have a couple of beers and switch to water before he leaves?
Does he smack the bartender in the head when his team loses,
or does he remain amiable? There are things you can learn
in a bar about a man that you never will in church. Bring
a friend with you and make having fun, not hooking up, your
first priority. You may have to show up three weeks in a row
before somebody talks to you (or, then again, maybe not).
Keep in mind that different bars attract different types of
people. If you don’t like the crowd in one bar, try
another place next time.
2. A class. I know, I know. You’ve heard
this one before, but have you ever tried it? Let me tell you
a story: My friend Brian’s longtime girlfriend dropped
him for another guy. After grieving for a while, he dusted
himself off and signed up for a cooking class. See, Brian
loves to cook, but he put off pursuing formal training while
he was with What’s-Her-Name. Once she was out of the
picture, though, he decided to register for a course, figuring
he’d meet many likeminded women there. Sure enough,
he did. I advise you to write down a list of hobbies you’d
like to explore and figure out which of them would also appeal
to men. Then sign up for a class or join a club. See what
happens.
3. Throw a party. While Brian did meet lots
of women at the cooking class, he didn’t fall in love
with any of them. So he threw a party where he could show
off his new skills. He wasn’t picky about who he invited
and told everybody to bring a friend or two. The result? A
woman he’d never met showed up. They fell in love and
have been married now for two years. But even if Brian hadn’t
met his future wife that night, hosting that party netted
him plenty of invitations to others, providing opportunities
to meet many more people. A caveat: When you plan your party,
don’t exclude married friends from the guest list. You
don’t want your big night to feel like a singles’
mixer. Instead, invite couples and encourage them to bring
a friend.
Remember, the trick to meeting new men is to
break up your routine. Step one: Put down the remote. I assure
you that the world is full of great single men like Brian
who want to meet someone special, and for one of those men,
that person is you. Seek and create new social situations.
Act naturally. Smile. Whatever you do, don’t keep twisting
your neck like you’re casing the place for a live one.
Maintain eye contact with whomever you’re talking to,
whether it’s a man or a woman. Above all, have fun.
When you’re having fun, you will attract men like a
magnet.
Keywords: single men, meeting men, meet
a man, dating, relationships, single women, where to meet
men
About the Author
Terry Hernon MacDonald, Shelton, Connecticut
terry@marrysmart.com
http://www.marrysmart.com
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the host of the weekly HealthyLife.net
radio show, "Romance Talk," which will debut October
8. Go to http://www.healthylife.net for more information,
or visit Terry's website, http://www.marrysmart.com
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