| You Like Me, You Really
Like Me!
by Larry Hochman
Remember that line from Sally Field? I believe it was from
the Academy Awards when she won the Best Actress Award for
Norma Rae.
(This is going back a few years.)
Just a little throw away line she said when
getting an award that is absolutely coveted by some of the
most talented, creative, wealthy people on the planet.
She clutched that statue with tears streaming
down her cheeks and uttered those famous words.
What does that tell you?
I'll tell you what it says to me. First, it
says that despite all the money and fame and sense of accomplishment,
at the end of the day all this lady wanted was recognition.
She had the same insecurities we all have, even
at the top of her profession. Inside that powerful personality
was a little girl seeking recognition and praise.
Second, it tells me that there is a danger in
wrapping your self esteem around how others feel about you.
I don't have a clue about Sally's personal life, and I hope
she wouldn't be crushed if I didn't like her.
On any given day, I can name at least ten people
who just don't like me. Some have no influence on what happens
to me on a daily basis, and some have some kind of direct
or indirect influence on how my day will go.
I bet there are some people who have real bitterness
towards me.
There was a time when my thoughts were occupied
with who likes me and who doesn't. And if you want to see
that in action, go to your local high school and see how many
people live their lives around who likes them and who doesn't!
That's why we put kids in school...they're not
ready for the big bad world yet.
Here's my take on it...if I'm doing something
that tees off a small segment of the world, it tells me I'm
at least doing SOMETHING!
And I'd rather be doing something that nothing!
And now I look at the people who I don't like
(and there are a few), but I don't HATE anyone. In fact, I
wish them well.
I just want them to be well somewhere else.
And I believe those people feel the same way
about me.
If they don't, that tells me something important...
that I shouldn't worry about what they think of me because
I don't respect their opinion in the first place!
So don't worry about the crowd. They've got
their own mentality that belongs to them. You've got contol
over your emotions and are independent of the opinions of
others.
Besides, I like you.
I really like you!
Keywords: lifestyle, self-help, personal
development, home business
About the Author
Larry Hochman, Bristol, Connecticut 06010
http://EliteMarketingTeam.com
Larry Hochman is "The Guidance Guy" who contributes
to RateMyTeachers.com, and has published widely on education,
personal development and home business. Visit Larry at http://www.geocities.com/mentoringmom67/LarryHochman.html
|
